Making an Impression with Mary Grace Gardner

Making an Impression with Mary Grace Gardner

Welcome to the show!

Today’s episode originally aired 4/8/18 but there is SO much valuable information to share that I wanted to run it again for those who may have missed it while I’m between seasons.

You are in for such a treat with today’s guest Mary Grace Gardner.  Mary Grace is an expert in all things interviewing both college and career.

I’ve seen her work and she is truly an expert and has so much valuable information about the in’s and out’s of what it takes to land your dream job through the interview process or getting your child into their top college pick.

If you’ve got a high school student and are starting to do the prep to get him/her into the college of their dreams, looking to get some help with scholarships this is the show for you.

Or, are a job seeker that wants to land that next interview or get to the next level in your current career, you don’t want to miss this episode either!

Mary Grace’s work also aligns with my work significantly!

Today we are talking about:

Exactly what it takes to land that dream school or position,

How the voice plays a key role in the interviewing process,

What is one of the key factors in getting into the college of your dreams,

How you can make it through college debt free,

Big mistakes job interviewees make,

Important technique before and during the actual interview,

And More!

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Guest Bio

Mary Grace Gardner is a  college admission and career coach with over ten years of experience helping students apply to colleges using what she learned as part of the admissions council for one of the top universities in the United States combined with what she did to get accepted into schools like UCLA, Yale, and Johns Hopkins.

She graduated from both undergraduate and graduate school completely debt free thanks to scholarships.

After graduate school, Mary Grace landed a competitive fellowship in healthcare administration and quickly rose in the ranks of leadership. She has reviewed thousands of resumes and interviewed applicants for roles ranging from administrative assistant to senior executive. She knows exactly what it takes to stand out from other applicants and land your dream job.

You can find her at https://www.facebook.com/theyoung.professionista/

or http://theyoungprofessionista.com/

Resistance and Your Voice

Resistance and Your Voice

Resistance: you may have felt it in certain areas of your life but did you ever have any idea that it could be keeping you from your next level of success through your voice?

Today we will talk about things to look for, why it happens, and the true power of your voice that resistance is trying to keep down. Resistance is your subconscious keeping you safe; keeping you small. Let’s break through that! Join me today!

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Resistance. There are a lot of ways resistance crops up and it is always found in voice work – even if you don’t realize it! It may be in the form of certain habits that are keeping you from the next level of success. I see people doing things, even subconsciously, that is resisting going bigger. Your subconscious is going to do everything it can to keep you safe, which means keeping you small. The voice is the utmost place of judgment, of vulnerability. Your subconscious works hard to keep you from getting too big, too bold, or too risky. All these things you’re being told by your subconscious will keep your masks up, will keep you nice and safe but will keep you from reaching the next level in your business and/or personal life. Judgment is not about you; being afraid of it is resistance.

Why is this work important? The voice is the most powerful tool you have. It is how we, your audience, determine every single thing about you. The biggest problem I see for so many people is that what they are revealing in their voice is not who they really are. Thus, they struggle with connections. Their masks are causing them to be rejected and preventing them from putting out the best versions of themselves. This becomes exhausting but we are resistant to put down the masks. I don’t focus on just technique. I focus on what is the best version of YOU and how do we crack those masks to communicate that to the world? The words are everything and nothing; it’s how you bring them to life that has the power to change me. Data is important but it’s not going to make me feel.

Trust is built in the voice; science has proven that. If you want people to trust you, they need to hear it in your voice. Subconsciously, your voice is where you reveal your message, your vulnerabilities, the wings of your soul, the orchestra of your heart. You can see why there may be so much resistance to protect you. Resistance can be found in masks such as hurt, pain, suffering, embarrassment, humiliation, experiences. When we are hiding behind masks, we are fully resistant. You can hear volumes in voices: barriers, connection, lack of connection. Use your ears but also trust your intuition. Your subconscious is processing what it is hearing. If there is resistance or fakeness, you can hear it as you begin to pay attention.

We all have to push through certain things. When you get to the other side, your life is forever changed. You’re transformed in a way you never dreamed. If you’re feeling resistance, don’t worry. You’re exactly where you need to be. Let it be your guide and remind you that you are on the right track of where you need to go next. It’s up yo you to decide how and when you’re going to push through it.

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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Vulnerability and Your Voice

Vulnerability and Your Voice

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Vulnerability. That’s a scary word. Voice work is vulnerability; creating a reveal of the best version of you. People tend to get themselves in trouble by creating vulnerability within their voice the wrong way. Listen to today’s episode to find out how you can use vulnerability in your voice to your advantage.

We make every decision based on every tone we process – consciously and subconsciously – based on what we hear in your voice.

Vulnerability is not about information. I see it everywhere. What I hear people doing is revealing detail with their words but wearing so many masks with their voice. They have this incorrect idea that they have to reveal detail or extreme emotion in order to get people to feel something. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Vulnerability is not about the deep, dark, dirty secrets of your life. Think about the people you think of as vulnerable speakers: you don’t know the minutia. There are some things that are shared as a choice, but not out of necessity, to connect with your audience.

I believe there are elements of our stories that are key or essential in telling, but we don’t have to dive deep into every single secret. Ask yourself: does this benefit or serve your audience? Vulnerability is not about what you share but how you share it. What becomes the problem and what we have to analyze when we want to become vulnerable is what are we trying to hide behind? Which voice masks are you utilizing to keep you “safe”? Are you 100% revealing who you truly are by using your voice? Maybe the need to get it right? People pleasing? Control? Not allowing people in? Most of your masks or bad voice habits are learned by the time you are two and it’s not always due to trauma. These masks can manifest in many different ways and tones in your voice. They’re subtle but they’re everything; your audience is processing them subconsciously and it prevents us from truly connecting with you as if it were bulletproof glass keeping you at arms’ length. Your voice is the most vulnerable tool that you have. When people know who you are, they let you in. People can feel it when you’re not letting them in or when you’re not being vulnerable with your voice.

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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Not Feeling Heard and How to Change That

Not Feeling Heard and How to Change That

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Not feeling heard feels a lot like not belonging. It’s devastating to confidence. They’re both critical to your success, to your confidence, and to your own worthiness. So many people don’t feel heard and I see what is laid into peoples’ voices in an effort to be heard. Today, we’re going to talk about exactly what you need to do and why it’s so important to feel heard when you speak.

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What’s Wrong with Trying to get the Words Right

What’s Wrong with Trying to get the Words Right

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Trying to get the words just right. Is that you? For whatever reason, you believe that if you can get those words just right, you’re going to get what you want. You’re going to be able to control how we feel and think. What you’re actually doing is putting a mask in place that will end up being the very thing that will keep you from getting that result. Let’s shift that today. When we shift that, we will be able to hear your confidence, connect with you, and you can captivate the room.

Let’s talk about the fear of not getting the words right and what that does to your voice. This is something both men and women struggle with. Some of my comments may be more geared to women specifically as this is something they tend to struggle with more, but it can be applied to both men and women dealing with this.

This is something I see in almost everyone I work with. This ideology of having to get the words just. right. You cannot control what I think about you. You can reveal the best version of you and you can release the outcome, but you cannot control what I think about you. YOU are the expert. YOU are educating us. We don’t know what you know. Yes, there are facts, data, and information. You may make a mistake because you’re human. It’s not “wrong”; you’re human. By focusing on being “right,” and trying to keep people happy, focusing on the outcome you want and what you think we want you to be, you are putting a mask in place. This behavior has been conditioned throughout of lives: being motivated by a fear of something going wrong or something bad happening if you get something “wrong.” Don’t give your power to your words. The power is not in your words. Your power is in making me feel something. You may mess up the data but you won’t mess up the feeling you cause me to feel. The hesitation, pausing, and fumbling that happens when you’re struggling to get things just right causes more damage than just connecting with your message, your audience, and releasing the outcome.

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Until next time, you know what to do: get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully.

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3 Hour Live Hands-On Psychology of the Voice Effect Workshop on July 20th

Voice for Women Live Online Workshop on July 23

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You Can Have Voice Power

You Can Have Voice Power

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Voice power: you want it, but how do you get it? Today, I’m going to teach you to find the balance between confidence and power to boldly own exactly what you need to say and find internal freedom.

The middle voice – the middle ground that exists within the pendulum of voice patterns. People tend to stay on one side or the other of the swing but the true power lies within the middle. True voice power is found in the middle voice.

Women usually get stuck in the high-pitched, sweet/nice voice with the fear that if they move to a stronger sounding voice, they come across as ‘the B word.’

Men usually wrestle with sounding professional vs. unprofessional.

The middle is where your true voice is. This is where true confidence lies. This is where you say what you need to say, releasing the outcome, and not concerned about what others are thinking. The term “power” or “powerful” does not need to have negative connotations. What are your beliefs around power? Do they limit you from stepping into your powerful voice?

Take this as your permission slip to use your middle voice. To ask for what you what. To stand in ownership of what you believe and boldly put it out there.

Release your pressure valve before you swing to the other side, the other extreme from built-up pressure. If you’re struggling to find that middle ground, go out to the parking lot or somewhere private and just say whatever it is you want to say. Then, when you go back in and speak directly with them, the edge has been taken off and you are able to find center.

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Until next time, you know what to do: get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully.

Upcoming workshops:

3 Hour Live Hands-On Psychology of the Voice Effect Workshop on July 20th

Voice for Women Live Online Workshop on July 23

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