The Joyful Approach with Joy Dushey

The Joyful Approach with Joy Dushey

Welcome to the show!

Today’s guest is Joy Dushey, creator of The Joyful Approach.

Joy Dushey  is a holistic life guide and breathwork energy healer utilizing a variety of supportive esoteric modalities: crystals, reiki, sound healing, somatics, intuitive therapeutic coaching, and Mother Nature herself. Joy lives boldly in her core desire to help inspire growth in others and create positive impact in the world by sharing what’s worked well for her. Her greatest joy is to give others a means to awaken to their own great love, joy, and purpose.

After suffering for years with sadness, PTSD & depression, and an Ischemic stroke due to struggling with grief and illness from the tragic loss of her brother, Joy created The Joyful Approach. The Joyful Approach is a life system that combines the upgrading of practical daily disciplines around eating, sleeping, exercising, breathing, and thinking, with deeper spiritual work  addressing core values, self-love, intentionality, and authenticity.  The approach allows for living in true flow of life and for the unfolding of our best and highest selves.

We can live in an embodied way with love, joy, and freedom.

We can live in alignment and wholeness and in who we truly are.

we can come home to our true essence.

 

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Cold Calling and Your Voice

Cold Calling and Your Voice

Do you want to make more money? Of course! 😉 Today, we’re focusing on cold calling and how to make sure what you’re putting out is what is going to take your bank account to the next level.

This is an episode for people in sales, entrepreneurs who have to call on other businesses, or even from the perspective of asking for a raise or pitching an idea to your boss.

What do people hear when they hear you?

You have to come to terms with perception-reception. The number of times people think they’re putting something out but we’re receiving it differently blows my mind. Your subconscious is always going to trick you. Why would your psychology of the voice tell you that you’re either messing up or rocking it if it’s not the case? The subconscious’ number one goal is to protect the heart. Voice is the orchestra of the heart. If it can convince you you’re doing a great job when playing small, you’ll continue to play small and stay safe.

You have to release the outcome. If you’re worried about the sale or the raise, your voice will convey that. Control is an illusion. You’re wrecking your chances by trying to control the outcome or focusing on the end result of making the sale or getting the raise. You can practice this by approaching this as if you were calling someone you know, like, and trust; a good friend. The foreshadowing in your voice – stiffness, disconnected, you don’t believe I’m going to buy, you don’t really care about me, you want to get to the sale, you’re not hearing me, etc. – all comes out in the disconnect found in your voice when I’m receiving your message. You talk to them as if you care about them. When you relax and have a conversation, the right things are going to come to your brain and connect with your audience. You talk about building relationships yet you talk AT people. You build relationships by talking TO people. There’s an exponential difference.

Vocal energy comes up when we talk about selling. My goal is not to turn you into me. My goal is to turn you into the best version of yourself. How do you feel when talking about what you’re selling? Are you excited? Passionate? Tap into that! When you commit to who you really are and reveal that passion and enthusiasm, it draws in your audience. You won’t be the “infomercial guy.” Reveal how you feel and watch what changes. You be you. Don’t let them determine how the call is going to go – don’t drop down to their level if they’re low energy. You have to maintain the best version of you at all times, and they will meet you at your level.

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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Voice of a Leader

What will set you apart as a leader in your voice? Start paying attention to the leaders you look up to and see if you can find these qualities in them.

TONE of voice. This is literally rolling the emotions in so that we can hear it. Sometimes this means saying what you need to say with a tone to make your feelings clear. Sometimes this not verbally saying what you need to say, but instead saying it with your tone. Leaders don’t have a problem saying what they need to say. There’s no dancing around. A leader will say exactly what needs to be accomplished in words and tone. Leaders take a neutral tone. There is not irritation, passive-aggressiveness, sarcasm, etc. present in their tone, regardless of whether or not they feel it. You lose your power the moment you roll emotion into your tone.

They don’t talk AT you, they talk TO you. Instead of “pushing” the conversation, they are connecting with you, present in the moment instead of barking orders at you and repelling you. They have the ability to make an emotional connection. Leaders make you feel heard – ex: I/You phrases.

Leaders reveal to you who they are but they are not working in an emotional state 100% of the time. They are calm when they speak, even if they are upset. They’re not trying to prove anything. They are calm and collected, regardless of the situation and what may be going on around them. Using these techniques have the power to transform not on your business interactions, but your personal relationships as well.

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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Delivering an Emotional Speech

Delivering an Emotional Speech

I am running another round of my group voice program – more solo time with me, and likely the last time to get involved with one this year and help reach your voice goals.
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About a week ago, I was called upon to write and deliver a very special speech. My mother passed away about 10 days ago. My father had passed away 5 years ago. I spoke at his funeral and that was before I ever started this show. I wanted to speak at my mother’s funeral. I’ve been asked about writing for funeral speeches as well as delivering them at the actual funeral. I wanted to honor my mother and be true to who I was, and our relationship. Everyone in my family gets a little nervous when I’m handed a microphone. I was the youngest of four and was the last to speak at the funeral. My oldest brother didn’t speak but my older two sisters did and had wonderful things to say.

I want to first discuss my process. This felt high stakes to me. I didn’t want to miss anything or forget anything. I wanted to get this right. The day after I found out my mother had passed, I started jotting down notes anytime an idea, memory, or thought would pop into my head. I wrote my first draft the night before the funeral. This was only over the course of a couple of days, so it’s not a lengthy process. In comparison, my oldest sister sat down and struggled with what to write in the moment/under pressure. My middle sister also struggled with what to write, but she ended up writing it almost like a letter to Mom.

I had split-second moments where I questioned what I had to say but I knew I had to be real, speak from the heart, and say what was on my heart, without worrying what people may be thinking. I had to become 100% committed to my message and release the outcome. It was about me and honoring my mom.

To put this in perspective for your own presentation, where is your allegiance? To what people will think, or to delivering a message, teaching certain content, commitment to a mission, etc.? What is in your heart? You’ve got to connect to that message and speak from the heart.

To be clear, nothing in this speech was abusive. This is not a permission slip to be abusive with your message. There were definitely things I could have said that would be negative, but why would I do that? Those things are long forgotten and forgiven. What did I want to say to my audience? My audience was my mother. What did I want her to know? Ask yourself: what does my audience need to hear from my heart?

I opened and closed with a connection. I took my notes I’d been writing and made them into this speech. I opened my presentation regarding a post my sister had written about my mother. At the end of my speech, I circled back around to this post and put my own spin on you. You always want to open with a startling statement, fact or a story. Structurally, next it would be:
Credibility statement
tell us what you’re going to tell us
2-3 body parts with a transition
transition into conclusion

In this particular speech, I connected, introduced myself, thanked my siblings, and started with the stories and the memories (3-5). I talked about grace and forgiveness. I really spoke from the heart of who I was and what our relationship was.
I spoke about our challenges in our relationship in a positive way, from a perspective of grace and forgiveness which is what my mom was all about.

I linked: what did I want to say to my mother and what did I want to say to these people here who loved my mother?

I never type out a full presentation but I did for this and it was 3 pages long. I used heavier notes than usual instead of my typical bullet points. I knew it was going to take everything I had to not fall apart.

Don’t forget to breathe and slow down; regulate your breathing and focus on it when needed (such as difficult parts). This should be worked on prior because it is not something you can whip out in the moment without prior practice. I leaned into vocal variety, connection to my message, and connection to my content; bringing the words to life and honoring my mother with them.

Don’t try to feed off the audience; they could be feeding you the wrong thing. Be mind, body, voice connected to your message. Be knowledgeable. Release the outcome. Be in the moment. Notice your audience but don’t become affected by them.

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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Speaking in Your Real Voice

Speaking in Your Real Voice

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Have you ever wondered if you are speaking in your real voice? Your authentic voice you were born with, instead of the voice you have developed subconsciously to protect yourself. If you’re not speaking in your true voice, let’s work to shift that and get you to the next level, speaking authentically and truly as yourself.

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For the most part, most people are speaking in their real voice. There are many, however, who are not. What is your real voice? What is your not real voice? Your not real voice is when you literally create a voice that is not your authentic voice and it could be conscious or unconsciously created. It could be emulating someone you admire or respect, or a voice to fit in to societal expectations. You may be throwing in an accent, dialect, or certain pitch as a way to hide your true voice, your true self, without even realizing. Are you in an industry where you are using a broadcasting voice, or a performance voice? Either way, these alternate voices all become bulletproof glass, making your real self and your message impenetrable to your audience and unable to connect with you. What’s worse is this false voice you’ve created is nowhere near as good as your authentic voice and requires an exhausting amount of upkeep.

One of the guarantees you’re not speaking in your real voice is that your sound is stuck. Your sound may be stuck in one of five areas: throat, jaw, higher pitch, nasality, and dropping your endings/pulling it back in. Flow is a major issue when dealing with an inauthentic voice. This is the top layer of muscle memory and prevents you from having vocal variety. To hear where your sound is stuck and how to get it unstuck personally, I’d have to hear you specifically. However, what you can do is lay down on the ground and talk out loud. Hear how your voice sounds. Does it sound different? Does it feel different coming out? Does it flow? If it sounds or feels different, there is a good chance your voice is stuck.

So many people create an inauthentic voice because they want to be who people expect them to be, they want to be accepted, to feel better about themselves, to perform, to keep people out, to make an impression – but all of it is hiding and none of it is real. You believe you have to be something you’re not so you create a voice that’s something you’re not.

What you want is for us to connect with you. It’s all linked. You won’t get anywhere if we’re connecting. I have to know how you feel so I can make an emotional connection with you. All of this is about hiding – not feeling enough, or you have to hide, or you have to present as something else. Every single time I have shifted someone back into their real voice, they have fallen back in love with their real voice again. One of the ways you can reveal who you are is revealing who you are – are you excited? Frustrated?Angry? The responsible expressions you need to express vocally are driven by feelings. Start having conversations WITH people instead of speaking AT them or performing for them. Be grounded. Start letting people in. Your mind, body, and voice must be connected. Get out of your own head and focusing on the outcome.

Another option is to sit in a hard chair, sitting on your hands (palms down), and see if it feels any differently. Your voice is the orchestra of the heart. Check your breathing, too; your breathing is the fuel for vocal variety. You have to be grounded and connected to your breath. Some of these things are technical things that we can work on better in person or during a workshop, but these are also techniques I’ve discussed in other episodes that you can try on your own. Start rewriting your voice story and stop telling yourself (or believing) lies about your authentic voice.

I’d love to hear from you and your thoughts on your authentic voice and if you’ve tried these exercises. Other than social media, you’re always welcome to email me at Tracy@CaptivateTheRoom.com

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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Benefits of Changing What we Hear in Your Voice

Benefits of Changing What we Hear in Your Voice

Welcome to the show!

I recently was on a trip and got in a very engaging and thought provoking conversation about how next level voice, the Psychology of the Voice Effect can change things, what’s the value in it, in a nut shell, what do you get out of it.

It was an interesting conversation and I really had to bottom line my answers.

The truth is, it changes everything.

To have the opportunity to discover what we are hearing and processing in your voice and have that secret weapon and then to change that is power in and of itself.

But, we also can look at what could be repelling people in your voice, are there aversions that are turning people off, are you creating connections and especially emotional connections.

It was a great conversation and I thought I’d share the highlights with you!

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