Speaking in Your Real Voice

Speaking in Your Real Voice

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Have you ever wondered if you are speaking in your real voice? Your authentic voice you were born with, instead of the voice you have developed subconsciously to protect yourself. If you’re not speaking in your true voice, let’s work to shift that and get you to the next level, speaking authentically and truly as yourself.

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For the most part, most people are speaking in their real voice. There are many, however, who are not. What is your real voice? What is your not real voice? Your not real voice is when you literally create a voice that is not your authentic voice and it could be conscious or unconsciously created. It could be emulating someone you admire or respect, or a voice to fit in to societal expectations. You may be throwing in an accent, dialect, or certain pitch as a way to hide your true voice, your true self, without even realizing. Are you in an industry where you are using a broadcasting voice, or a performance voice? Either way, these alternate voices all become bulletproof glass, making your real self and your message impenetrable to your audience and unable to connect with you. What’s worse is this false voice you’ve created is nowhere near as good as your authentic voice and requires an exhausting amount of upkeep.

One of the guarantees you’re not speaking in your real voice is that your sound is stuck. Your sound may be stuck in one of five areas: throat, jaw, higher pitch, nasality, and dropping your endings/pulling it back in. Flow is a major issue when dealing with an inauthentic voice. This is the top layer of muscle memory and prevents you from having vocal variety. To hear where your sound is stuck and how to get it unstuck personally, I’d have to hear you specifically. However, what you can do is lay down on the ground and talk out loud. Hear how your voice sounds. Does it sound different? Does it feel different coming out? Does it flow? If it sounds or feels different, there is a good chance your voice is stuck.

So many people create an inauthentic voice because they want to be who people expect them to be, they want to be accepted, to feel better about themselves, to perform, to keep people out, to make an impression – but all of it is hiding and none of it is real. You believe you have to be something you’re not so you create a voice that’s something you’re not.

What you want is for us to connect with you. It’s all linked. You won’t get anywhere if we’re connecting. I have to know how you feel so I can make an emotional connection with you. All of this is about hiding – not feeling enough, or you have to hide, or you have to present as something else. Every single time I have shifted someone back into their real voice, they have fallen back in love with their real voice again. One of the ways you can reveal who you are is revealing who you are – are you excited? Frustrated?Angry? The responsible expressions you need to express vocally are driven by feelings. Start having conversations WITH people instead of speaking AT them or performing for them. Be grounded. Start letting people in. Your mind, body, and voice must be connected. Get out of your own head and focusing on the outcome.

Another option is to sit in a hard chair, sitting on your hands (palms down), and see if it feels any differently. Your voice is the orchestra of the heart. Check your breathing, too; your breathing is the fuel for vocal variety. You have to be grounded and connected to your breath. Some of these things are technical things that we can work on better in person or during a workshop, but these are also techniques I’ve discussed in other episodes that you can try on your own. Start rewriting your voice story and stop telling yourself (or believing) lies about your authentic voice.

I’d love to hear from you and your thoughts on your authentic voice and if you’ve tried these exercises. Other than social media, you’re always welcome to email me at Tracy@CaptivateTheRoom.com

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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The Main Thing Holding You Back with Your Voice

The Main Thing Holding You Back with Your Voice

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It’s possible there are several things holding your voice back, but there is one that is holding you back more than anything else: perception.

Most people preface any kind of presentation or session with me with by telling me how terrible it sounds or reasons for why it will be poor quality. That’s your subconscious holding you back! Your perception of how your message is being received is holding you back from playing bigger, from stepping outside of your safety and comfort zone. You are judging yourself in a way that your audience is not. 99.9% of what you put out, what you perceive, is received entirely differently by your audience.

Notice the children in your life and how they boldly own their voice. Little by little – likely before you were five – our internal story is rewritten to remove our confidence, tear us down, and keep us playing “safe.” You have to put out a different product (your voice), to get a different reaction. When you are working on improving your voice and breaking down barriers, you are rewriting that internal driver. This then delivers a different “product” via your voice and received differently by your listeners. Stop giving your power away to the perception of what you think we’re thinking.

You must – must – grasp the idea that your perception is wrong – that your perception is not what we’re thinking. Then, move to the “now” and trust that you’ve got this. By being in the future and the past, you won’t have it. One of the questions you can ask yourself when you are feeling like no one wants to hear what you have to say, you don’t sound good, you should just keep quiet, etc.: is this ultimately true?

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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How Outcome Driven is Hurting Your Voice

How Outcome Driven is Hurting Your Voice

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This is episode 1 of season 5 of Captivate the Room. It’s hard to believe we are beginning year 5 of Captivate the Room. I love to hear from you; please reach out via any of the links listed in the show notes. The biggest compliment you could ever give is to Subscribe and Review on iTunes.

Today’s episode will cover what happens to your voice when you’re outcome-driven. Almost all of the people I work with are outcome-driven. Being outcome driven is a wonderful quality to have that often leads to success. I want you to keep your outcome given qualities while removing the barrier that comes through in your voice.  When I am speaking with someone who is outcome-driven, I can hear the outcome already at the beginning versus in the middle or the end. Other people may hear it or process it differently, but – either way – it is not in your favor. The way people hear it and process it subconsciously is what is so problematic. They hear it as if you are pushing it at them; you’re pushing them with your voice, as well as talking AT us because you are working to your agenda and the outcome. Why would I, as an audience member, be invested in what you have to say if it feels like you have already made up your mind and you’re just informing me? The outcome is in the future; how are you managing your voice now, in the moment?

In addition to letting your audience be a part of the conversation, you will also need to release the outcome. It may feel difficult at first, but if you can release the outcome and make me feel like I/audience matter, you will get the outcome you desire and don’t have to hold onto the reigns of control so tightly. It then becomes a matter of repetition and putting into your muscle memory after resetting the driver. This process may feel horrible and slow, but that is resistance; that is your subconscious trying to shut it down and keeping you playing small so you “can’t get hurt.” Your perception may tell you that you sound rediculous but 99.99% of the time perception does not equal reception.  

It’s hard to dive deep during one episode but for now, focus on:

  1. Conversation
  2. Being in the now
  3. Releasing the outcome

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully.

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Achieve Success with Rob Scott


Prior episode:

Changing Your Inner Voice, Identity Shifting w/ Rob Scott

Rob’s website: https://robscott.com/

Welcome to the show!

Today you are in for a treat because the incredible Rob Scott has returned to Captivate the Room for a second visit.  Rob is one of the most extraordinary people I’ve ever met.  From his story, to what he’s overcome, to the work he does today he never ceases to amaze.

In today’s episode Rob and I talk about:

Identity shifting, what it is and why it’s so important,

What is the shadow work,

Storycasting,

What a mind virus is and how we get rid of it,

Being, doing and winning,

Trying to achieve success and fulfillment and settling for only one of them,

How we can quickly transform issues that we feel hopeless about,

Rob’s thoughts on my documentary and what parent’s need to do to ensure their children feel heard and more!

 

Guest Bio

Rob Scott is the expert that helps people break through, change and literally evolve their consciousness.  Rob goes beyond just mindset shifting, he shifts your very identity and he’s world-class at this.  Rob shifts people who think they’ll never be a successful entrepreneur and turns them into massively successful entrepreneurs, he takes people who never think they’ll have success and turns them into incredible success stories.  Rob’s spent the last decade of his life working with hundreds of thousands of people, shifting their identities and showing them how to evolve their consciousness and get incredible results across all areas of their businesses, their health, their relationships and their entire lives.

Rob’s personally been awake now for more than 20 years and has been helping others wake up for more than a decade.  He’s helped craft congressional testimony multiple times which has led to national policy reform in American, has thousands of followers that he feels blessed to interact with and is the coach other coaches come to in order to shift themselves.  People who work with him have massive breakthroughs of more money, more health, more time and quite simply, more happiness and fulfillment.

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